About Us
Our website promotes the work of Best Seller author James Bauer.
“Your secret obsession,”
“What men secretly desire”
James has extensive experience in Relationship Counseling.
His work consists in studying the inner workings of a man’s mind and the way he experiences a romantic relationship, using for this the study of psychology, strategies of influence and the male and female perspectives on the novel.
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References
Harry’s Masculinity Report 2018 https://s3.amazonaws.com/harrys-cdnx-prod/manual/Harry%27s+Masculinity+Report%2C+USA+2018.pdf – Men are happiest when a part of something where they feel needed and valued.
Anderson, Cameron & Hildreth, John & Howland, Laura. (2015). Is the Desire for Status a Fundamental Human Motive? A Review of the Empirical Literature. Psychological bulletin. 141. 10.1037/a0038781. – Male need for respect.
Murray, S. H., Milhausen, R. R., Graham, C. & Kuczynski, L. (2016). A Qualitative Exploration of Factors That Affect Sexual Desire Among Men Aged 30 to 65 in Long-Term Relationships. Journal of Sex Research, DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352 – Men want to feel wanted and needed.
Terri D. Fisher, Zachary T. Moore, Mary-Jo Pittenger. Sex on the Brain?: An Examination of Frequency of Sexual Cognitions as a Function of Gender, Erotophilia, and Social Desirability. Journal of Sex Research, 2012; 49 (1): 69 DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2011.565429 – Men think about biological needs (e.g. Hero Instinct) more than women.
Gender Differences in Implicit Self-Esteem Following a Romantic Partner’s Success or Failure,” Kate A. Ratliff, PhD, University of Florida, and Shigehiro Oishi, PhD, University of Virginia; Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, online Aug. 5, 2013. – Men have lower self-esteem when their partner succeeds and they fail (i.e. they don’t feel needed/irreplaceable).
Canevello A, Crocker J. Creating good relationships: Responsiveness, relationship quality, and interpersonal goals. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2010;99(1):78-106. doi:10.1037/a0018186 – Showing him you believe in him and he’s the one for the job.
Reis HT, Lemay Jr EP, Finkenauer C. Toward understanding understanding: The importance of feeling understood in relationships. Social and Personality Psychology Compass. 2017:11(3):e12308. doi:10.1111/spc3.12308 – You value his point of view and abilities.